Tip of the Day: Never doubt the authenticity of DILBERT. Ever.
I am envious of YA author Sarah Dessen. I admit it. Her book THAT SUMMER totally rocked my reading and writing world and cinched it for me that I HAD TO write YA novels. I devoured all her other books soon after. The relationships and characters she creates are just so...right and make me really really wish I could write like that. So yes, I am envious of her talent and success.
But that doesn't mean I wish her any ill will or anything bad at all. I think that's why I use the word "envy" like "covet" rather than "jealous" which to me has more of a negative thought process associated with it. In fact, I love reading Sarah's blog, was thrilled when I heard about her new novel's release date, and think she comes across as sweet, intelligent, and truly appreciative of her success. I wish her much continued success and happiness because I want to keep reading her books, and I know she worked hard and continues to work hard to get where she is today.
I think that is the key: Envy without unhealthy associations. To use envy as motivation for your own goals, not as a way to wish others less success.
Of course when you are working towards the same goal as someone else and they get there Sooner! Better! Faster! it's hard not to compare yourself to them, but because I am a generally positive person, here are 10 thoughts to Not Get Yer Hate On when jealousy comes out to pound envy on the head:
1. I don't wish I wrote the book that brought this person success. If I had, it wouldn't be the book it is today, and I have too many of my own ideas I need to get on paper!
2. My own books are as good as this person's, so I will find success, too.
3. My own books are better than this person's, so I will find success, too.
4. I work as hard as this person does, so I will find success, too.
5. I may love this person's books, but I wouldn't trade my life for theirs, as our own lives shape our writing.
6. It sounds like this person's path to success was easy, but of course they aren't airing the difficult personal parts of their past/journey that all of us have had.
7. This person got a huge advance, but my book will earn out its advance no matter what the amount, and I'll reap the royalties for years to come.
8. This person is younger than me and already sold their books, but I wouldn't trade what I accomplished when I was that age for what they have now.
9. Someone else already sold a book with a similar theme to my WIP, but that just means the market is open to that kind of book so mine will sell, too.
10. If I had what this person has, it wouldn't make me a better person than I am today.
I love writing. I will never stop. I love revising and seeing my works become more and more polished. I love re-reading my own books and the enjoyment I get from them. I will never stop trying to get them published. I love my life, and all this is enough for me.
How do you beat envy/jealousy?
Deena, Miss Recently Repped