Tip of the Day: Feeling a little blue about the economy/trying to sell your book? Kristin Nelson had an upbeat blog this week about the current situation.
People are always asking me how I get things done when they see me and my four kids ( ages 6, 4, 2, and 9 months). Mommyhood is a huge time suck (though a wonderful time suck). There are meals and playdates and driving back and forth to schools and homework and gymnastics and ballet and basketball and art class and baths and volunteering at school and (I'll stop here...you can see this is never ending). Then I tell them I'm a writer too and their eyes sort of glaze over. It's really doable though so I thought I'd share my SUPER SECRET tips today.
1) Work all day. Not literally of course. But if I know that I'm going to get out to write in the evening I'll look at where I left off in the book first thing that morning and what's coming next and then run it through my mind all day. Like yesterday for example. I knew my main character had a super hard letter to write. I thought about it all day so by the time I was ready to write, it came out pretty quickly. There are great times throughout the day to do my writing/thinking. I find that I'll fight for my husband for the shovel when it snows because I get a whole scene plotted in my head that way. Of course, you have to remember to collect all of the receipts, backs of envelopes etc, that you jotted things down on all day to take with you.
2) Have a good support system. If I didn't have a super supportive hubby who came in the door at 7 pm and said "Go write!" I wouldn't be able to get so much done. He's always willing to do whatever he can so that I get my time.
3) Get an iphone or other e-mail reading device. They're so completely addictive and you can get so much more stuff done! I've e-mailed my editor and agent from the school pick-up line numerous times.
4) Get over the guilt. Sometimes, especially when you have a deadline (like I do right now!) you just have to tell yourself it's okay to let some things go. Yes, I still have to feed and bathe and play with the kids. They still need to go to school and their activities etc. but I don't have to pick up every flippin' Barbie off the ground every night. And the dishes can wait awhile. And it's okay if they have mac n cheese every so often. (But please make it organic wheat macaroni noodles with all natural goat cheese and organic milk. KIDDING!)
5) Love what you do. Writing is my down time. My yoga. My bubble bath. It's not "work" for me to go write. It's a luxury so I cherish and enjoy the time I do get.
These are my tips anyway, Got any you want to share with me?
Kristina, Miss Delighted to Debut